"What, pray-tell is GU?"

That’s the question I asked an iDater who contacted me. She was from New York; at least a hundred miles away from me.

When she indicated interest, I wrote back mentioning that I was looking for someone closer. I left out the part about how I am looking for someone who lives around five or six blocks away. That’s right, you can’t have everything, so I never expect to find someone in the one to four blocks away category.

She was kind in her response and noted that she understands how GU relationships can be difficult. "So, what the hell is GU?"

After much pondering, I wrote back to this woman who already knows I’m lazy and not willing to drive a hundred miles each way to see her. I started with, “I’m sorry to bother you, but I was wondering what GU means?"

She wrote back and told me that GU is geographically undesirable.

I should have been able to figure this one out, if I, like most men, didn’t have sex on my mind incessantly and figure it must have meant genitally unique. After all, unique genitalia sounds much more intriguing than geographically undesirable.

By the way, I ran this question by women, too, and they had no clue either. Maybe it’s a common dating abbreviation, or maybe it was just this one woman’s way of abbreviating words. What ever.

The next question is, "Can a relationship that is geographically undesirable flourish? Being lazy, I don’t think so. But even for those of you who have stamina and drive, do you really want to drive hundreds of miles? I don’t think so. This type of relationship could cause one to enter into a commitment prematurely just to stop all the driving.

"Please marry me and move in because I can’t take riding this much every weekend.”

The distance can also work against a relationship causing many to flee because they just can’t do all the rode work.

I suppose that if you meet the love of your life and they are far away, you can make it work.

Yes, the sex-drive is often strong than the long-drive.

However, there are many things going against this type of arrangement. Absence makes the heart wander! That’s one problem. There are too many opportunities to be tempted to meet others who are closer.

Each of you has to decide.

For the life of me, why I am getting so many requests to meet from women who live many hundreds of miles away makes me wonder. Have they run out of eligible candid-DATES in their region of the country? Does everyone know they’re a loser, or are they so picky that they have to search far and wide to find the right one?

Who knows?

There is a phenomenon I have noticed on Internet dating: Some very hot, young women contact me as soon as I join a sight. It’s almost like “new meat” is shouted around the dating site and these women are ready to pounce. The trouble is that they may be hookers. They seem to be way too young for me and they are wearing seductive clothing with cleavages showing way more than expected on a family safe dating site.

These women mention how they like older men (they leave out the part about older men with money or older men near death that are willing to leave them money). It’s a tough world out there.

Be careful!