While Home Alone was the title of a movie about a little kid left "home alone" who had great adventure and fun, in this context it is about an adult, that’s you, spending the night home alone without any adventure and very little fun.

And if you consider sex fun, interestingly, according to the world authority on sex statistics, married people have more sex than single people, making home alone not anywhere near as much fun as marriage or living with someone.

I could not believe what I was reading when I saw the numbers concerning sexual frequency for married versus single people. You first have to realize that when they do these studies, the numbers are an average. Yes, on average, I suppose married people may have more sex than singles – actually, I still don’t believe it, but, I suppose, if married couples have more sex, its because there is, after all, a partner around much of the time with whom they could have sex if they both wanted to. However, when we look at averages regarding sexual frequency, I don't think they are including the escapades of the Casanovas and the nymphomaniacs among us. Yes, there are some singles out there having a whole lot of sex, but not near as many as you may think.

Actually all you have to do is remember back to the days when you and your friends were single, unattached, and hung out. Back then, you wished you had a girlfriend or a boyfriend. Why? Because you often went home alone, even when you were at the height of dating and should have been having all the sex Madison Avenue and Sex in The City portrays as being the norm while it is not.

Now that we established "home alone" may not be as much fun as a good date, or a good marriage, or a good living-in partner, we should look at the other side of the story. Home alone may not be all that bad.

Let’s see what we do when we are home alone. We watch television, we read, we watch television and we read. There you go, at least four things I could think of that stimulate and offer solace at the end of a hard day. Actually, there are other things to do if you have varied interests like playing your guitar, piano or flute, collecting things, cooking, and going online. We can even have virtual sex by utilizing Internet porn, so there, we can have fun too.

Then there are those who either by desire or necessity, take their work home and go till the wee hours doing that which they couldn't get done during the day. They have no fun at all.

The odd thing about single life, especially after a bad marriage, is that you may actually appreciate solitude. Unless you’re the type who needs someone around every minute, it can be nice to relax and watch television without someone interrupting you every minute to do this and do that.

If you find that you enjoy the solitude, you may decide that you don’t need anyone in your life. Couple the joy of solitude with those who "can take or leave" sex (more women than men), and they can become reclusive and grow their finger nails and hair just as long as Howard Hughes did when he had some socializing issues.

You should make it a point of connecting with others, even they are friends of the same sex to just hang out, or you can get too comfortable with solitude.

Then there is the dating option. Do you go on iDates with toads for the sake of having company? I think that in the quest for a mate, there is nothing wrong with going on many Internet dates as long as you screen them, preferably with a couple of emails and calls.

I don’t like to waist a bunch of time on a multitude of emails and calls if there is no chemistry. I prefer to meet and decide how much I need to know about them and them about me in the first ten minutes of the meeting. I am willing to go on not so great dates for expediency.

Think about it: you can spend hours on the phone telling your life story and hearing theirs, versus meeting someone for an hour at the most, and move on if there is nothing there. Even if it costs you for coffee or a dinner, time is money, so why waste hours on the phone when you can see if there is chemistry in a few minutes. Plus, you learn from every experience and mark the failures up to experience. Yes, a short date may be better than investing lots of time "talking" only to find yourself on a non-chemistry date.

If the person you are interested in needs some familiarity before you meet, try to oblige them. You can tell after a few conversations whether you want to meet. The sad issue arises when you enjoy this person on the phone and really communicate well only to find that there is no chemistry when you finally meet. It’s enough to make you give up on phone sex.

Let’s say you find the perfect mate and they are not ready to commit. This is a man and a woman thing, with more men being noncommittal than women, even once they find the right person.

Is it better to give him, or her, an ultimatum or is it better to enjoy their company and see if it moves farther along? That is a very personal question you have to answer for yourself. You even have to decide how much is enough time. Do you date this person for a few months or years, or do you "cut bait" after a short period of time?

I suppose if you love someone and they purportedly love you, there should be some level of commitment. It doesn’t have to be marriage, but a committed relationship is not asking too much.

There are those who have been so scarred in a past relationship they can’t make a commitment, and that is sad, but sometimes a reality.

There are those who can best be described as serial daters who have no plans of commitment. If you have a great time but don’t like that arrangement, then give the ultimatum. Just recognize that you may end up sitting home alone, a lot, not having any fun.

If you have a great time with this person, recognize that it may be magical for a longer time because you don’t see them all the time. Honeymoons don’t last forever especially when your bride or groom is around constantly. Familiarity can breed contempt. And even more likely and more common, familiarity tends to breed complacency that then breeds contempt.

Here is a short love story that I saw online. It sums up the "marriage thing" from a negative point of view.

                                        A Short Love Story

A man and a woman who had never met before, but who were both married to other people, found themselves assigned to the same sleeping room on a Trans-continental train.

Though initially embarrassed and uneasy over sharing a room, they  were both very tired and fell asleep quickly, he in the upper berth and she in  the lower.

At 1:00 AM, the man leaned down and gently woke the woman saying,...........  

'Ma'am, I'm sorry to bother you, but would you be willing to reach into the closet  to get me a second blanket? I'm awfully cold.'