The divorced candidate can go either way. Since they are no longer married, you don’t have to worry very much about them going back to their previous spouse, however you always have to ask yourself why did their marriage fail? Yes, you have to ask yourself. If you ask them, they will give you their version of the divorce and that will invariably be one sided. Not that you can’t listen to their story, because their side of the story may be very real and convincing. If their ex was bipolar and ran off to live in the Arctic with an Eskimo, you have a good chance that this candidate may have been a victim rather than an abuser.

Another good question to ask the divorced candidate: is this their only divorce? Everyone knows they should try to avoid the three-time loser, but any relationship with a divorcee has the potential that you may be getting involved with someone who has issues, especially if they’ve been married several times. Remember, issues is a nice way of saying they could be nuts in case you forgot.

Never discount the fact that many divorcees are great people. Never discount that they may be divorced because of problems that they have, not the other party. Yes it takes two to tango, but some people just don’t know how to dance at all.

After a few dates you should be able to see various traits that may not be conducive to a good relationship. See if this person is nice, caring, thoughtful, empathetic and down to earth. If you notice little things like that they make unreasonable demands, expect you to cater to their every need, or they happen to be the type who screams, “I am the god of hell fire” when things aren’t going their way, this is not a keeper.

I noticed one date treated her relatives and friends with disdain and curtness in situations that were mildly stressful while she was fun loving and kind to me. It’s always good to see how people treat those with whom they are most comfortable, because that’s just how they are going to treat you once they got you.
        Divorced people usually have scars whether they are the victim, the abuser or a little bit of both. People with scars may be more defensive and have difficulty entering into a committed relationship for fear of repeating the previous experiences with marriage. On the other hand, they may be more desirous and dependent on getting into what they perceive of as a good relationship. You should try to figure out what they want and need before you invest too much time if you are looking for a committed relationship from your online dating experience.