It goes without saying that kindness is a requisite necessity in all healthy relationships. In dating, in particular, if you are not kind to your dates they will shrivel and die (the relationship, not your date) - unless you're really good in bed or have a lot of money. Seriously, relationships without kindness are toxic and in time resentment, frustration and hostilities towards one another ride high. To avoid this paucity of kindness you need to be vigilant. It's not like you go from kind to nasty overnight. Nasty begins with frustrations. Your mate forgets something you ...

Years ago there were few people who got divorced. That has changed radically over the years, and there are tons of divorced people looking for dates on Internet sites. The question arises: is it okay, or perhaps, even better to date the divorced person versus the single or widowed person? The next question: how is it possible that so many amazing divorced people exist in this world? Who would ever let these wonderful people get away? When you read the profiles on dating sites, everyone seems, oh so nice. Actually, they seem incredible. Go ahead and read the profiles of all those d ...

The short answer is, yes! How is it possible that you enter into a beautiful relationship from an Internet dating site and after the honeymoon period (usually a few months to one year) it becomes sexless? This is explained in The Sexless Marriage Fix, published by Basic Health Publishers, and written by myself and Dr. Roberta Morgan. There are many reasons for a relationship to become sexless and they are all delineated in our book. Here’s a glimpse. There are six reasons relationship become sexless: 1) Personal reasons – things like infidelity; you have financial problem ...

Once you are situated, having registered with an online dating service, uploaded your photo, provided a nice profile describing how wonderful you are, and having chosen a cool Internet dating name, you are now ready to search for a mate. Keep in mind that if you are drop dead gorgeous, a.k.a. hot, hot, hot, you may not have time to search for your mate since there will be so many daters emailing you at your dating site address that you won’t have time to search for anyone. Let’s assume you are just "hot," or reasonably gorgeous, or maybe even average. You folks wil ...

Dating always starts off in the Garden of Eden. No, you’re not naked being spied upon by vipers. You are, however, in the throes of ecstasy. You can’t wait to see this person, conversation is golden and blissful, and the sex is even better than the conversation. Now wouldn’t it be nice if it could go on like that forever and ever. It could if you were never banished from the Garden.Well, that’s what fairy-tales are made of, not reality. What happens over time is that the conversation gets a little old and the sex is okay and, well, you can wait to see them if s ...

Something interesting happens when you involve yourself in dating as you age. Actually lots of things interesting happen to you as you age, but that's a story for another time. Suffice it to say dating in youth is much different than dating as you get old, or shall we say older. While your taste for fine wine, beautiful art and the host of niceties that life offers doesn't decline, your ability to attain some of these things changes dramatically. If you are lucky and prudent, at some point in your getting to the older stages of life you can attain things like fine art, a corve ...

In most every endeavor throughout history, be it, business, military, government, unions, marriage, there has been a leader, a General. Most people know that the leader isn’t always the smartest, nor the  strongest, nor the one in actual control. Ask any wife who really runs the family, and see what she says. Certainly our Presidents have always been figurehead leaders, and while they get the final say, they are guided by a trusted group of advisers. The Queen of England, is another figure head, but not really in control of day to day administration of the country. Even t ...

And now for some more unusual dating advice that you won't find anywhere else. This is a difficult topic. Do you really want to know what health concerns your date has? Is it even ethical to snoop around and try to learn of potential problems? Can playing detective be a way to protect yourself from some serious illness? Would you really want a serious relationship with someone who will be forever troubled with medical conditions? All of these questions are important for you to consider before you make a commitment. The entire concept of HIPPA, the laws that require doctors to keep y ...

There are numerous articles written about the fraudulent dater who posts phony picture that they stole on the internet, and then used them to create a fictitious character. These jerks then contact as many women as they can and over time, dupe them into giving them money for one scheme or another. Notice that I said, “These jerks…contact…women.” For some reason, most of these articles tell stories about men who take advantage of women, almost as if it never works the other way. Well it does. There are women who do the very same thing. They get men to send them mone ...

Unless you have been part of an arranged marriage, there is a good chance that chemistry had some influence on your becoming a couple. You saw a picture (like onInternet dating sites), it was love at first sight, or some such chemical phenomenon took place the moment you cast eyes upon your beloved. Sure there are those cases where it took time for the chemical reaction to take place, but there is that inexplicable force that drives you to the ones you find attractive. We are not talking here about the complexities of sexuality that, at times, may have nothing to do with the chemistry o ...