There comes a time when you want to introduce your new date to your friends, parents, siblings or other such people in your life, like your parole officer. One of the first and usually easiest introductions is to acquaint your lover with your friends. It will likely involve a dinner in a place in the hood, because they too don’t want to spend any more time with you than you with them. You, especially, as a dater, want to go home and make love. They as a happily married couple want to go home and watch the Tonight Show and get to sleep. Oh, the benefits of dating! Depending on how much ...

At some point, you may want to introduce your lover to your friends. The more you like your lover, the more the temptation to share the good news with your friends and family. There is also the yenta factor, a.k.a. the busybody factor that involves everyday talking on-and-on about, or asking about things going on in other peoples’ lives. If you have a lover, that subject beats out the mundane things in life and this means your lover's friends already know a lot about you and yours about them. Yes, you probably told your friends and family everything you know about your lover during yo ...

I went to see a magician last night, The Amazing Kozac! It encouraged me to make this post. Let's begin with an introduction. Yes, The Amazing Crisco is appearing tonight. From near and far, the town folks gathered to see his performance. There is much in common between The Amazing Crisco and your new love interest. The analogy is quite strong, but most people never make the association. So consider yourself lucky to learn about it here. If you know anything about magic, and even if you don’t, you must have seen how one or another magic tricks work. Once you learned the “secret ...

There is a good reason this post isn’t included in other blogs on e-dating for the younger set who don't seem to need these remedies. I think you get the point, but if not, just remember that by fifty-something, the women have or will shortly enter into menopause and the men will or have been entering into andropause – the male equivalent – better in some ways and worse in others than what women go through. Women may find they are dryer than when they were young, making intercourse difficult and even painful. Assuming you are going to eventually enter into physical relations with ...

You may find yourself away from home and horny. I don’t think e-dating will help you in this regard because older dates aren’t looking to jump into bed without a commitment that includes at least six e-mails, three telephone conversations, an informal meeting for coffee, and a subsequent dinner. That rule applies to most of the women. The guys are looking for a commitment too: just show up. You see, the guys don’t need much of a commitment, so if you women find yourselves away from home and horny, get in touch with a guy on an e-dating service, be very forward and you’ll score. S ...

Cognitive dissonance can be simply defined as a state in which the mind is confused. It actually goes deeper than that, but at this stage in your life you need “simple” because your mind is confused. So let confused define it for us. While on a coffee date, I realized that my eyes drifted toward every attractive woman who happened by. Knowing this is rude behavior, I made a very concerted effort to stop the gazing and completely avoid gawking over these unusually attractive women. There seems to be a rule of love and dating that states there are no attractive mates around when you ...

While on a cruise, one of the comedians told a joke that went like this:They say two out of three people are ugly. Now look to your left and right and if you see any one that’s decent looking... you know what that means.Yeah, we all laughed, and I suppose most people were too drunk to get the joke or make the realization that there is much truth to that statistic, unless of course they were from Lake Woebegone, where all the children are above average looking.So what do looks have to do with dating? Very simply, a hell of a lot!Did you ever wonder why you do, or you don’t, get many peop ...

Depending on your psyche, age, looks, the date of separation and a multitude of other factors, you may or may not be ready for love. That’s not quite right. You’re always ready for love; it’s commitment you may not be ready to grasp. That’s not even right as some are not ready for love or commitment; they are just ready for baseless raw sex. No, that too is flawed thinking. The fact is you may or not be ready for any of the above at any particular time, and your wants, needs and desires may vary from time to time. The problem arises when your wants, needs and desires are ...

In the words of John Lennon in a letter to his distraught (?) cousin, he wrote, “Are you lonely..or alone?” There is a world of difference and you have to recognize the difference if you wish to make sensible choices in your dating life.Loneliness can lead some to pick less than ideal partners due to the feelings of desperation and depression often associated with such lonesomeness.Judgments in looking for that perfect mate can be clouded and result in more desperation and depression when you end up with the wrong person.Being alone isn’t all bad especially when you were in an em ...

Here it is, Sunday night, again. Sunday is the night I wanted to post this blog, but for one reason or another, the posting days vary.While we are using movie titles for posts, (last week it was Home Alone) we continue this week with Guess Who's Coming to Dinner - a well received movie from the past.   You’re thinking, A rather provocative title for this post. You’re probably wondering who’s coming to dinner? Is this an interracial thing, like the movie? Actually it’s not related to race, and it’s you who are coming to dinner to meet the kids.There comes a time when you get ...