The divorced candidate can go either way. Since they are no longer married, you don’t have to worry very much about them going back to their previous spouse, however you always have to ask yourself why did their marriage fail? Yes, you have to ask yourself. If you ask them, they will give you their version of the divorce and that will invariably be one sided. Not that you can’t listen to their story, because their side of the story may be very real and convincing. If their ex was bipolar and ran off to live in the Arctic with an Eskimo, you have a good chance that this candidate may hav ...

Of all those available online daters, the separated individual could be a big risk and not a good choice in some respects. This is a person who may or may not go on to become truly available for a meaningful relationship. Since they have not yet finalized their marriage through divorce, they may be inclined go back to their spouse and cause you to experience a deep hurt if you fall for them.        It is important to understand the dynamic of their marriage. For example, if the wife left the guy and he is heartbroken, but she realizes that she sh ...

Speaking of single, many are actually single in the truest sense of the word (never before married). The younger the dating site, the more "single" folks. By the time daters get into their forties, most of them have been married for the first time. You have to ask yourself, why is this person single (never before married) at forty or fifty something? The answer may well be that they are still single because they are smarter than the rest of us, or they may be fussy bachelors or bachelorettes who have not yet found their princesses/princes. Just because someone isn’t married by forty does ...

SINGLE, SEPARATED, DIVORCED, WIDOWED, LECHER, PREDATOR          There are six categories of people on dating sites: single, separated, divorced, widowed, lecher and the predator. Each one comes with a higher probability of certain risks and rewards depending upon their category.   When you first start dating you may be a bit excited about meeting someone and this may translate into not using your head when it comes to choosing from all those choices you find on e-dating services. It’s like a kid in a candy shop not know ...

Profiles are how you and all the other members of Internet dating sites describe yourselves. There is both an art and a science to manufacturing your profile. The science is the easy part. You figure out what year you were born and do a simple math calculation to come up with your age. For your weight you use the scientific method: stand on an accurate scale and see what the reading indicates. This number is called your weight. You probably noticed that you don’t have to understand advanced mathematics nor be a rocket scientist to come up with these very objective answers for you profile. ...

My niece decided to sign me up for Jdate, an ethnic online dating service. If you have ethnic dating services available, and assuming you like, respect or gravitate toward your ethnicity go for it, otherwise you may meet many people with very little in common.If you are fed up with your ethnicity, try a new one. You may meet some very interesting people or just realize you like your own kind. Remember life is a journey. Also remember that just because you are on a journey, it doesn't’t mean you aren't’t responsible for your actions and you may pay dearly for making stupid choices. Bein ...

We all have our stories to tell. The stories of how we were suddenly thrust into the dating world after many years of marriage or comingling. Before we can begin the healing and the journey of dating, its best to tell your story, but not to your dates. They often find your stories filled with anger, frustration, hate and animosity. Let's face it. No one wants to date people harboring those indignities. So tell your story to your shrink, your bartender, your best friend or your pet. Here's my story. You can use it for comparison, and maybe you won't even need to tell your story o ...

Everywhere I turn, they’re either too old or too young. Goldilocks has got to be out there, but finding “just right” has been elusive so far. To find one my age that’s in good condition is like finding a rare antique living in an undiscovered attic, sheltered from the affects of time.   To consider younger seems better on the surface, but too young and there is no commonality. And I can forget the ones who want me to have their child. Don’t get me wrong; I want to go through the motions of having their child, but there is no way I want to have any ...

This book is dedicated to the iDaters out there. "i" standing for the "Internet" daters who for one reason or another have joined the world of finding a date, mate, lover, or companion on the Internet. The primary purpose is to help you navigate the iDating world successfully. The secondary purpose is to share experiences so we as a community can help others by offering ideas, cautions and advice. So, be ready for some real interesting stories and great ideas to find the perfect mate or to avoid the date from hell! FYI - The material presented is for the forty and a ...

Welcome to WHO YOU DATING a book dedicated to finding the right mate or at least having fun reading about the quest of others.