This has nothing to do with the feelings you may, or may not, have after first sex. That was the big concern when you were a kid. And for today’s kids, if they don’t have first sex pretty soon, they will, in fact, "not love you tomorrow."For you who remember the tune by the same name, it’s not about the tune. What we are concerned with here is a very serious and somewhat depressing thought: What will you, or your new mate, do if either of you become seriously ill? This is a dilemma that has been around before you ever were born and it was there when you were married if you were marr ...

There may come a time that you wait for a call that never comes. Someone contacts you by email or phone and says they will give you a call and they don’t. This can mess with your head as you try to think of the seven-hundred-fifty-four reasons they didn’t call, when in reality it may be something innocuous. First let’s examine the reasons you first think explain why they didn’t respond to your emails. These reasons depend on your ego. If you are the confident type, you will immediately figure that they never called or emailed back because they realized by the initial contact that ...

The cruise is an even better way to really know your new mate than the mere land vacation, unless, of course, you took a cruise for your first vacation. All of a sudden you are thrust into close quarters in a closed biosphere with the person you are probably dating on a regular basis, and may even be considering for a life partner. It’s the close quarters that make this situation so touchy. If you were smart and took a full week to cruise, you get the whole effect. A two or three day voyage won’t always cut it. Of course, if you do the whole week and this person is driving you nuts, ...

While love at first site is a romantic notion and one that some are fortunate to find, most have to settle for some type of a “chemistry” connection. This means that you may feel good about someone from the moment you meet, but unless it’s a chemical explosion, it’s not going to be at the same level as love at first site. I posit that love at first site and chemistry in general is made up of both lust and the heart – sex and emotion, with lust/sex being the stronger component of the thing we call chemistry for men while emotion is the stronger component for women. Many relatio ...

After reading a bunch of Internet dating profiles over a long periodof time I noticed a theme, of sorts, that can best be described as poorly executed. You may need to rework the way you present yourself. After all, who you meet is an important matter whether you just date, have a new friend or end up marrying. The perfect profile for iDating I like to have fun but know when to be serious. Don’t we all want to have fun? Isn’t this a given? Then why do 80% of profiles state that they want to have fun? I like going out but can stay in and snuggle just as well. Again, I think we all ...

I find it utterly amazing how many great men and women are on dating services - at least based on their descriptions of themselves.They often start out by telling us how their friends would describe them. Terms like loyal, sweet, loving, kind, caring, nurturing. You get the idea. Just add every conceivable nice quality and you get the picture. Now here's the part that's difficult to comprehend. Most of these folks are divorced!Why would anyone in their right mind let these people get away?There's got to be something wrong with this picture. I suppose this is no different than Madison Aven ...

First I want to apologize to all of my fans (yes, both of you) regarding my lack of posts to this blog. I am hoping to be back on track and entertain all those requiring guidance and humor in their lives on the dating circuit.The best way to get to know someone is by the passage of time. Over the long haul each of us acts more like our real-selves as various defenses and cover-ups go by the way side.Having to go through a year or more of dating to find out more about the true person you are deciding upon spending the rest of your life with, or until the next divorce, may be an unnecessary ...

When you were young and dating, this topic never came up. Now that you may be entering into, or just past andropause, and find yourself dating again, there are some important issues to consider. First, if you have a bad case of andropause, you probably have no interest in dating, and that’s a shame. Andropause just means your testosterone - the main male hormone, is fading as it does with all men in time – some more – some less – some sooner – some later.Testosterone is what gives you your sex drive, your libido. It helps maintain your heart health as well as your mental health an ...

When you were young and dating, this topic never came up. Now that you may be entering into, living through, or just past menopause, and dating again, there are some important issues to consider. First, some women get so uptight about the effects of menopause that it keeps them entirely out of the game.For some, it was menopause that got them back into the dating game as it could have been a factor in a fifty-something divorce.Menopause may express several changes that can adversely affect relationships. Almost all of these changes are the result of the actual cause of  menopause: decr ...

Quite often, when perusing the little photos of perspective mates on Internet dating sites, I think the dating service must have sent me suggestions from the wrong group of women. These women are very much older than me.Annoyed, I would then look at the person's age, and I'm really shocked! These old looking women are often ten or more years younger than me. How is this possible?Actually there is a simple answer - I look just as old to all the women looking at my photo.Yes.... you get old and don't see it.Many years ago, at 75 years of age, my father told me he couldn't believe that he was ...